Before “overpopulation” believers go straight for my neck, I would like to utter out that I am Pro Creation. Yes, Pro creation. Not Pro Choice, and not Pro Life.
But what does Pro Creation mean? Well, on the broad sense, it means favoring creation. But it also means Co-creative Procreation. Please allow me to make my case.
How many people nowadays were born because of the following “accidents”:
- The condom broke
- The pill didn’t work
Or someone saying:
- “I drank too much that night”
- “I wasn’t supposed to be in my fertile days”
- “My biological clock was ticking”
- “Everyone else was having babies”
- “My partner wanted to have kids”
- “I was too hot to pull out”
What is the story most parents are going to tell their kids about their conception as the first generation born during the Covid Crisis?: “The TV broke down during the lockdown”? Or perhaps, “The Internet was not working for a whole day”?
These are the presence-less conceptions of the human beings that are -in the best case scenarios- welcomed “accidents”. Is this really the best we can do as the so called keystone specie in the world?
What if there is another way. What if human beings were meant to be born by invitation of both parents being fully present even before the moment of conception. A beautiful form of pro creation done in co-creation starting from the moment both parents use the power of their thoughts to co-create the possibility of a new being taking human form through the portal of the birth channel.
The opening of collaborative wisdom circles and sharing spaces to have deep listening and meaningful conversations about topics such as this one, may come to be crucial to steer the path of humanity into one we are all for in consent. One of the questions I would personally like to offer in such spaces and circles is: “What are the differences that you perceive between the presence-full conceptions and the absent or, even worse, the not consented conceptions?”
This may sound like a way over the top of a topic to talk in a forum in front of new and old known strangers. Or perhaps people can’t see the importance of talking about this at all. “Would it be the end of the world if more people get born out of presence-less or absentee(s) conceptions?”, people might ask if they get at least a bit intrigued. And my answer would be “Of course it wouldn’t mean the end of the world… at least, not yet”. “And… would it really make a difference if people rushed into pro-creating in co-creation?”. Of course not! Bringing these beings into nuclear families would mean subjecting them to isolation (even more now with the ongoing corona crisis).
That being said, I would like to bring forward that all the people in the world, each one of us, have what it takes to bring MORE people into this world by co-creative pro-creation. Fully present means something beyond mindfulness and even heart-fullness. And even beyond having an open mind, open heart and open will. It involves remembering. Remember who we are. And we will only remember who we are by inserting our nuclear family structures and individualized lives back into the community life, the tribe life, the village life. Living back in the community life will not make things be in harmony from one day to the next. We will go through, and are already going through the lessons of the collective trauma while sensing what is possible. And here is where the joyful efforts will be key to graduate from this challenge: enjoying the rite of passage along with the growing pains it is bringing forward. Favoring creation. Remembering about the lessons learned form the era of wanting to have babies/children, to graduate to the era of bringing beings in full presence. What if nothing is holding us back?
All children are a blessing and love can come in anytime to fill up any gap left by a not so fully present conception.
May there be fully present people.
May there be functioning communities.